It is a very perplexing situation. There is this idea that pops into your head and its one that could reduce or eliminate the dilemma you are facing. But how do you know if its the right thing to do?
I have found myself from time to time frozen in indecision because of an inability to move forward with an idea. It is extremely frustrating for someone who prefers decisivness in day to day expereicnes. But through trial and error and a moderate dose of paitence I have found the "Cup of Coffee or Tea" approach is often the answer to the dilemma.
When that voice inside us provides an idea for a situation we are facing and we are not sure if it is the right way to go, we need only go as far as a friend. While spouses or significant others would be the logical place to turn, their judgement could be clouded because of the relationship. A third party is preferable to examine the idea that has been presented.
It is also critically important to ask the third party to be objective based on their knowledge of you. There are many a times when someone who sees me from a distance will recognize a factor I have missed and it usually is something that can be a determining factor for whether I pursue the idea further or drop it. The friend may actually be helping to prevent hurt, sorrow and even pain by analyzing the situation from a distance and turning me in another direction.
While many ideas that come from within for dealing with a perplexing situation in life appear to be good , I have found it best to first ask before acting. The next time you have quieted yourself so the inner voice can be heard, remember it may be time for a "Cup of Coffee or Tea" with that friend.
And maybe throw in a danish or scone too.
See you Thursday.
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