Planting a Seed

Greeting to my connections on LinkedIn and thanks in advance for the read.  Since LinkedIn is supposed to be a business to business type of social media it seemed only appropriate to announce here that I have decided to turn my public speaking endeavor up a notch.  This doesn't mean at the moment that I am giving up on broadcast journalism but instead means I am trying to expand my horizons by trying to seriously expand this aspect of my life.  I thoroughly enjoy public speaking and have come to thoroughly enjoy teaching during the process.  I teach about life so I guess that puts me into a category of being a "life coach." 

I asked you to come here to plant a seed.  You belong to various organizations that are always searching for interesting speakers for programs, conferences and seminars.  I only ask that you keep me in mind if you have any input with regard to the selection process.  You can learn more about what I'm trying to do at www.keys-4-life.com.  And before you ask, credit my wife for the name of the company.  She said if you are teaching people about life, their potential can be unlocked by opening the door but you cannot do that without first having the key to do so.  She's right.

Thanks again for the read.

Jim

Getting Away and Reconnecting

            Have you ever had an event that has really had an impact on you to the point that you had to process what happened over several days before you could actually tell people about it?  That happened earlier this month when I attended a men’s retreat sponsored by my church. This was a tremendous opportunity to recharge my depleted spiritual batteries.  They had been drained over the past couple of weeks because of work related issues.       The retreat was a perfect forum to escape and to refocus.  The 21 hours spent in an area away from most of society allowed for time for reflection.  Try and imagine this.

            You get up at the crack of dawn or before then because the person in the next bunk is snoring up a storm, but this development provides all kinds of opportunities. You grab a warm beverage and walk to the shore of the lake. (All camps have one)  It brings renewal. The world is awakening before you and this has nothing to do with traffic or your job or the rest of society.  It’s you and nature. On this particular weekend in this particular location it was the sound of Canada geese greeting a new day.  Picture it for a moment.  It’s in the upper 40’s, there is steam coming off the water creating an almost fog like atmosphere.  Then when all is quiet the piercing sound of the call of a goose shatters the morning quiet.  It could be a loon, or just a roster in the nearby field announcing the day depending on where you are.  You sense something surreal about your surroundings and it forces you to pause and for a long time your mind wonders to a quiet place.  You breathe deeply, savoring the moment. You are at peace.  And this is just the first 10 minutes of your day.

            The point here is to make certain that you plan for yourself a getaway.  You don’t necessarily have to go to a camp although I highly recommend it.  It could be your favorite chair at home, with a good book.  It could be for a walk near your home (leave your cell phone at home) but get away.  Take the time to pause and reflect.  Take the time to spend some time with yourself. You are important and you need to take care of yourself.  We all need to stop and get off the merry go round of life and recharge.  Yes, I was fortunate that I could go on a retreat to do so…but just a day ago, it was two hours in a coffee shop, a couple of green teas and a blueberry muffin and some reading.

            I do hope you find the opportunity to take some time soon and recharge. It will be time well spent.

Playing in the Dirt

The last three days have really been a reat great time.  It’s not because of any major accomplishments at the office nor is it because of a reaching a completely harmonious relationship with my wife.  Judy will tell you there are days that I’m not even close.  And no, I am not celebrating recent lottery winnings. 

            For the last few days I have been able to spend about 90 minutes or so playing in the dirt, just like I did when I was a little boy and probably just like any other man did who is reading this when he was a little boy.  It been only a few years now but I have found a wealth of enjoyment through flower gardening.  There is something almost serene about sitting or kneeling on the ground with a small spade in hand, turning the soil and planting something. It’s even more amazing to drop a bulb in the ground and then seeing something break through the dirt a few days later, not really understanding what when on out of sight beneath the surface. It’s one of those periods in time through which I can usually block out everything else in life that may be of concern and concentrate solely on the proper depth and separation of this plant or that one.  Planters by the way, and I am not ashamed to say this, are a great way to score points with the Mrs. The combination of geraniums, salvia, petunias, marigolds seemed to do the trick.  Great color too!  This is just one more example of taking a step back from the fast pace in which we all live and putting some context back into life about what is really important.  It may not be gardening for you, but I’m betting there is something that will help pave the way toward a positive, enriching escape.

            The tradition established earlier has been maintained by the way.  The cell phone stays in the house when I’m in the garden because the last thing I need is to be “playing in the dirt” and have that peacefulness interrupted by a text message.  Now if I can just get the dirt out from under my fingernails…

Stepping Away to Enjoy Life

This falls under the category of the need to take a step back and enjoy some of the blessings in life. It will demonstrate how there are times for the digital world to invade our lives and there are times for it to be put aside.

It was the weekend of March 31 when my wife and I traveled north to her hometown and the celebration of her mother's 95th birthday. It is a milestone in and of itself because of the longevity that is involved. But it was also an opportunity to bring family together something that happens all too infrequently in this day and age. Grand children and great grand children were present, friends of the honoree that in some cases date back decades, and some long lost acquaintances who showed up unexpectedly to round out the day. Someone actually provided about three dozen helium filled balloons to be launched as part of the celebration. (Just try getting the extended family together to do that sometimes) The opportunities for fellowship and coming together as a family are becoming less and less so the celebration served as a reminder to take advantage of them whenever you can. This was not the time for the digital age to intrude in our lives.

But just before this celebration was a perfect example of using the digital tools at our disposal to communicate with one another in a meaningful way. It was on the way to the celebration that in came a message on my wife's smart phone with a picture attached. It was just a half hour earlier that our 8th grand child was born (a girl) and grandma suddenly became very excited. She quickly forwarded the information on to those who needed to know. And yes, the parents had up on their Face Book pages pictures of their daughter within a few hours. So even though she already has a digital footprint that will grow in the years to come, technology and social media did play an important role in getting the word out. Just don't let it interfere with those special family times. Just put down the phone and the computer and enjoy.

What's on both will still be there in a couple of hours.

Looking for Some Help

There comes a time when you decide to make a move. A decision that could very well impact the rest of your life.  This is one of those decisions.  I have been trying to get this speaking business of the ground for more than a year now.  There is at least one if not more than one obstacle is my way.  I have a full time job that is demanding, intense and usually satisfying.  But is leaves little time to develop my passion for speaking publicly.  I am not a boastful person but I will honestly say that I am very good in front of a group of people.  My message is well received and the people listening actually have several take aways after a presentation.  Check out the the testimonial page on my websites.  The quotes are real.

What I am looking for is some assistance in booking appearances.  I can blog to my heart's content and I can blindly make phone calls or send emails.  But what I am looking for is a reference or two about companies that help public speakers get opportunities to speak.  Suggestions will be more than welcomed at jim.boyd4512@gmail.com .  If you are reading this and you actually are from a company that provides services to public speakers seeking engagements then by all means please contact me. 

The bottom line is that I am hungry to pursue this endeavor.  I just need someone or some company to point me in a few directions.  Thanks

The Benefits of Making Time

We are all very busy.  It is hard to find someone, no anyone, who will tell you they have a lot of time on their hands. Instead, when you ask someone about life they will often reply something along the line of "There are not enough hours in the day" or "I really need eight days in a week to get everything accomplished." Here's a good one, "I have so much to do and not enough time to do it." 

Time was made this past weekend for a 13 year old named Colin.  He's one of the grandsons.  He had been promised by his grandfather a few weeks back that he would come and watch him play soccer because the last time his "grandpa" was in the area he was injured and couldn't play.  This was not one of those events that required a trip of a few block or across town.  It's two and a half hours one way.  His grandmother had established a tradition long ago of taking the grand kids out for their birthday for lunch and a present.  "Colin's "grandma" was in another state on this latest visit so "grandpa", for the first time, took on the birthday duties.  Lunch was at one his favorite places for "shrimp" and then it was on to a book store to get the latest two editions in a literary series Colin was reading.  ( They were on his birthday and Christmas list)  When grandpa took him home he was told a hug was needed for grandpa and grandma too.  It was the strongest  hug I had had in a long time.

The subsequent two and a half hour drive was a joy.  I was in the clouds.  The connection made that day is one I will never forget and it provide a valuable lesson or two.  I could have stayed home but if I had I would have missed the blessing of getting to know one of the grand children a little better and I would have missed a gift that was for me.  Some may know this and for some this may be news but when you give..often times what you are giving to gives back.  In this case is was conversation, a hug and a smile or two.  Plus a care free drive home.  I count four Benefits of Making Time and that is a pretty good return on the investment.  So the next time you find yourself presented with a similar situation whether it be family or something else...make the time.  All the other "stuff" can wait.  But these precious opportunities don't come by all that often.

Peace of Mind in the Middle of the Storm

Life is always teaching you something.  Today, October 13, is a perfect example.  It was tough from the get go because this week in my profession requires the alarm to go off at 2:45 in the morning.  The stress inherent in that alone would drive some people to drink. (I quit 10 years ago)  Work was less than enjoyable, and yes there are days it is a joy, because I was down right tired. The trip home was anticipated to see the new tree planted in our backyard only to find it had not been done.  They found  an underground cable no one previously knew about.  The situation was being investigated while the furnace technician was in the basement doing the routine fall maintenance.  The Reader's Digest condensed version of the story is that the furnace needs to be replaced.  The storm clouds had already formed even before the tree saga began to unfold and the storm was raging as my wife and I talked about the financial obligation that was ahead of us.  Yet, despite all of that, I can sit here tonight in relative calm and with a sense of peace of mind. 

Maybe it was the walk with the dog before the sun went down tonight.   Maybe it was knowing that no matter what life throws at you, it can be dealt with in a positive way.  Case in point, the experiences of today led to time for thought and a long overdue blog post.  But maybe,  even more importantly, it's the confidence that I will make it through tonight and tomorrow and in the long run the events of today are just the bumps in the road that are a part of life. 

Perspective is a very important part of life and it's been clear to me for a number of years that we all need to take a step back and put days like the one just described into perspective.  It's just one day.  What happened on this day cannot be undone. I can only look forward to another day tomorrow.  I believe its perspective like this that provides Peace of Mind in the Middle of the Storm.