Most of us have probably run into several people in our lives that just seem different. This is not about those who try to stand out through the clothes they were or the accomplishments they have attained in life. But rather it is in their day to day existence that makes them just seem different than most other people. It's because they are confident about themselves. Or to put it as the Merriam Webster puts it. " A feeling or belief that you can do something well or succeed at something. " How to get there is a question that goes unanswered for a lot of people so some thoughts on this day after a three day weekend.
1. We are all good at something. Some of us more than one thing. Focus on those aspects of life initially and determine how you got to be good at them. Was it practice? Was it through study?Was it through trial and error in a real life experiences. None of us could probably ride a bicycle properly for the first time without falling off. Nor could most of us replace the garbage disposal without a lot of sweat, inappropriate language and most likely a leak on the first try. (I put it in backwards the first time) But each time we tried we probably got a little better and thus gained some self confidence about the activity or task.
2. Move forward into an area you are not confident in by using the same approach. You have to practice to get better at no matter what you try but its through practice that you eliminate the fear factor especially the fear of failure. It is fear that stops us and makes us appear that we lack self confidence. But most will agree people who are confident in themselves do not allow fear to control them. I used to....but not any more.
A few more tidbits.
3. Dress Sharp. It's not a guarantee but performance can be affected by what you wear. Dress too casually and your demeanor will reflect it.
4. Pick up the pace. Have you ever noticed people who appear confident are moving quickly? Walk a little faster and you should will notice a difference.
5. Know what you are going to say before you say it. Blurting something our without forethought will only lead to trouble through inaccuracy, inappropriateness, or embarrassment and all three are confidence killers.
6. Do something good for someone else daily. Whether its in the office, at home, or volunteer work, giving of yourself will make the other person feel good about themselves and you will reap similar benefits.
Just some thoughts to start the shortened work week after Labor Day. But you just might find yourself with a little more self confidence by week's end if you give them a try.
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